» It’s a sad news! Nurture Our Child with Love and Patience: Importance of Nurturing Our Child in Their Early Childhood Development

Published in July 22nd, 2008

Every morning, I am looking forward to go to school happily as I’ll be meeting my children. However, I received a bad news once I stepped in the school this morning. One of my ex-boy who is just 3.5 years old has to face a very hard time in his life. He has lost his mother forever due to chronic cancer disease. It just happened so fast as the boy just left us few months ago to a new school. I’m upset that he has to go through so much at such young age.

When he was with us for 3 months, he was coping with his parents divorce. His behavior changed drastically during that period of time. He used to be a happy bright boy who listened and followed instruction. After the incident, he became uncontrollable. He would disturb his friends; he would imitate other’s behavior such as sucking thumb, shouting, running, imitate his friends’ speech etc. He would not cooperate. One day, he looked sad and asked me if I have handphone, I told him yes and why. He said, “Can you please call my daddy?”. I felt sad but I diverted his attention to other activities. I discussed this matter with one of my senior hoping she could give me some guidelines to deal with this situation as she has more experience. However, she didn’t agree with me and said that his behavior is just normal. She didn’t agree that a parent’s broken marriage has effect on children. Can you believe that?

I observed that he wanted attention, but he has used the wrong way to obtain it. He didn’t know how to express his feelings, therefore he did something unusual as a way to let go of his emotions. I tried my best to work with him and talked to him. I told him that he can speak to me whenever he wanted to. Before I can do much with him, the mother came to us and complaint his behavior. Then my senior came to the picture and intervened. What happened is that the boy became even more confused and he didn’t find a right channel to ease his emotion. I was really struggling to get him to the right track, but each time it was interrupted by the senior as she has different believe. A month later, he was taken by the mother to join another school. I hope and pray that he will have a better environment for his growth.

Today, I pray that he will be braved and grow up with love and care by people around him. I pray that people around him will be sensitive about his emotional development and guide him through the tough time. I pray that he will get stronger and tougher and enjoy his childhood with people who nurture him with more love and patience!

2 users responded in " It’s a sad news! "

Elaine said, in July 23rd, 2008 at 3:17 pm

My heart goes out to the boy in your post. He has to go through so much at such a tender age. First the divorce of his parents and then the death of his mother. Its too much emotional for a little boy like him to cope!

These toddlers can’t express themselves too well so its very hard for us to know how is he feeling and what is he thinking about so its hard for us to know the impact of the incident on him.

I hope that the caretakers will give him more attention and care. What’s more important is to observe if he has any abnormal behavior as these series of events might be too much for him to take and memories during childhood will have a great impact to the child in adulthood.

KJ said, in July 24th, 2008 at 2:44 pm

well, I truely agree with you that socialization plays an important role to bring up a child. He is too young to cope with all these by himself, he actually needs a child psychologist to talk to him in his ‘kiddo’ way to let him understand what’s happening between the parents.
What he was thinking was probably ‘ the parents dont love him anymore’ instead of the fact of divorce. Thus resulted in his misbehaviour.
Since he’s already enrolled in other school, let’s just pray that he has a better future and there’s a guardian fairy there to lead him to the right path.
If there’s a chance you could hear any news from him or get in touch, try talking to him in a very positive way to see how’s his life.
Make sure he doesnt hate his parents