“You are not supposed to make friends with parents!”, ”Only I can talk to parents as I know what to say, but not you teachers”…I came across incidents where teachers are prohibited from talking to parents in certain schools. So, they will act as they know the child well and give wrong information to parents about the child’s development.
Leadership doesn’t demand respect from others, but gain respect from others for who you are and your capability to lead in the right way.
The positive teacher-parent relationship is important in every child’s development and should be encouraged. It creates mutual understanding between teacher and parents on the efforts that we have done for the child in school. Parents should take each comment about their child either good or bad in a positive manner. Most people can’t take negative feedback or comment in a positive manner. In fact, negative feedbacks that help us improve and become better in future if we take action to change.
In my professionalism, I believe teachers need parents to be involved as together they can guide a child to establish a positive personality development. Communication between teachers and parents are able to help teachers to know their expectation and concerns if there’s any. The information helps teachers to be able to plan and organize lesson plans that suit a child’s development.
For instance, I have a child who likes hitting his peers in the class. I need to impose discipline in the class by putting him on thinking stool and explaining the consequences of hitting others. At the same time, I love to have a so called class meeting with the little ones to ask their opinion of the misbehaviour. Most of the time, peer pressure is the most effective as children listen to children at the end of the day. The child might think, “My friends disagree with me hitting others as they don’t find it funny as I thought it is…well, it’s not funny after all, I better stop before I annoy everyone and no one wants to play with me anymore.”. Parents who are informed by his teachers about his behaviour, should impose the same discipline at home by consistently discourage the child from hitting as it is inappropriate. However, there are parents that are very defensive and will say, “These are kids. What do you expect?”. Would they love it if their child is being hit and bullied in school? Then they will come and complain and the story goes on and on…
I have a boy who is very weak in his language development. I spoke to the parents and suggested ways to help him in school and at home. This boy is low in self-esteem, “I can’t..I don’t know”, that’s his mental block from progressing. It took months to see very good changes in him when both teacher and parents work hand-in-hand to help this boy in the language development. We also help boost his self-esteem in his personality development.
Teachers can build good friendship with parents as long as they know their professionalism. We do not gossip about each personal life, but respect their choice of lifestyle. We should focus the issues involving the child. We must know our line in our conversation. Mutual respect is important in a good teacher-parents relationship. Instead of stopping teachers from talking to parents, why not guiding teachers in building their professionalism as a whole?!